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Use this to your advantage to see what you can learn about your would-be partner – consider using a Google image search to see if their profile picture is unique or lifted from elsewhere on the web (a lazy trick operated by many online fraudsters). If someone you’ve never met in real life asks you for money, don’t give it to them, irrespective of how you may feel about them or the stories they’ve told you.
Scammers are good at taking advantage of people’s kindness and will use any trick they can to separate you from your money – including asking for it up front to supposedly help get them out of trouble, an age-old scam known as “advance fee fraud.” It doesn’t matter whether the person you are talking to needs money for the air fare to come and pay you a visit, or cash to pay medical bills, or is a serviceman in the military who needs help retrieving their property – all such requests are extremely likely to be fraudulent. Not everyone on a dating site is a good person, and some are downright dangerous – in addition to fraudsters, you may also encounter stalkers or abusive “trolls.” If you are receiving abusive messages, report the offender and, if the site supports it, block them too so they cannot harass you any further.
Perhaps influenced by the approaching Halloween, the first in a scary-looking series of images puts forward one of the key myths about signing up to a dating site: Always be cautious about the people you meet online, especially if they start asking for money to help a family member, to visit you or pay medical bills etc.
It would also be wise to keep an eye on your glass or bottle to ensure no-one adds anything unexpected to it.
Tell a trusted friend or family member where you will be going and give them an idea of when you will be back.
For others, it can happen much quicker than that, but be wary of people on dating sites who say they are “in love” after just a few days of chatting.
If someone seems too keen, too soon, they may have an ulterior motive.